I don't think it is a stretch to buy into the notion that I am who the most important person in my life thinks I am. I think that our self concept (different, much different, than self esteem) lies outside of us. In fact, it is in the hands of that person (or the people) that are most important to us. Thank God that the Christian has it wrapped up in His assessment of us. Even though I was a child of wrath He pursued me and bought me.